"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:12 NIV) We often tend to think that when we walk alone this will make us stronger and most believe this makes one wiser, assuming you are safe. We've all had moments when we've tried to rely on ourselves and have tried to make things happen in our own strength. Why do we do this? Do you personally think someone will see you as being weak? I understand if you feel this way. It's hard to trust someone when you have been let down, but there is hope to recover. We were not meant to do life alone; it's always healthy to communicate that you are lonely. It's okay to say you are NOT okay.
Isolation is the condition and result of loneliness, especially when something or someone has made us feel less than or unwanted. The origin of the word Isolated is from the French word Isole (isolated). The French word derives from the Italian word Isolato, which is from the Latin word insulatus, which means "made into an island" from Insula (island). A person who avoids the crowd or company of others tends to look for places and ways to be alone. It is possible to be an introvert and getting joy in having alone time, but there should be a balance, it is needed and Godly.
Being alone is the easiest way to bring isolation and separation from the people in our lives. It has always been God's original intent for us to do life with people. "And the LORD God said, It is not good for the man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18 NIV) It is when we stray away from God's original intent that sickness begins to consume us. Seeking our desires instead of God's can also cause us to deviate apart from God's original plan for our lives. It is so important to trust in God's desires instead of our own, only because our desires can be very temporal and very misleading. When we lean into God's original intent and His desire for our life, it will help us find a community where we belong.
When we run away from issues instead of facing them, we catch ourselves facing the same monster with a different face. I know this is for someone, but moving to another state will not fix the problem, being present and moving forward with boldness is the answer. The Holy Spirit is our helper and God places people around us to aid us, but it is critical to accept the help. God blessings break isolation and loneliness. For example, when we have big decisions to make or something in life takes a sudden turn, it is essential that we have people around us to help bring insight and wisdom to our situation. It says in Proverbs 18:1 that, "Whoever isolates seeks his own desire, he breaks out against all sound judgment." We were never meant to try and figure it all out on our strength and intelligence; this is torture. It is incredibly helpful and much encouraged to prioritize our dreams and goals but to get there it will require people. While we are reaching our dreams and purposes, it is important to include our friends and companions in it as well and enjoy the process in getting there.
The critical key is to seek and know God's desires for us. When we show ourselves friendly, it will draw people to us. In Proverbs 18:24 it says, "A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." I encourage you to find a church, ministry or organization with a pure and safe community and get plugged and planted in that community. I also encourage you to get out of the house once a day, you never know, you may meet a new person and adapt to a different social environment. As you pursue your interests and dreams more doors will begin to open for your personal and professional relationships.
Our lives are more fruitful and filled with purpose when we choose to seek and live by the wisdom given to us. "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." (Proverbs 11:14 NKJV) Leaning into a community gives us a sense of protection, trust, and hope for the present and future. When we're apart of a safe community that brings consistent peace and joy our lives will gradually become healthier and happier. It is with wisdom and an amazing community that you will experience the hand of God and begin to see loneliness leave your life.
Today take some time to pray to God and ask God to show you, two people, to reach out to and build a relationship with. Have you noticed a community you would like to join? Be uncomfortable for a few minutes and ask to be a part. Trust and believe that there is a place and people who are called to your life. God's understanding of where we are and what we need is more significant than our knowledge. Step outside of your comfort zone today by taking the initiative and reaching out to people and doing the very thing you fear. Isolation and loneliness are a reality but certainly not permanent; you can overcome this today! Be encouraged!
With all love and joy, Ericka